How to know, if he is the One! and if he is, keep him foreva! realy!?

Is he the One!!?? 

Guys, guys..  Before I start, let me tell you, this is just some random content, of a random mind, if taken seriously, or tried, I am not responsible for the consequences. :-p please handle them yourselves.

If you still want to read it, then go ahead..

Ok, So .. here we are,, at the most important question which takes most of our time, of how to choose that one special person of our life.. How will I know, He is the One..!??
Yea, we all have our dream guy.. Intelligent , Humorous, Handsome +Cute, sweet, caring-loving, artistic, good body, stylish and swaggy, famous, rich.. etc etc (these attributes are in order of my prefernces) may vary from person to person..!. and as you get this list, you start finding the one, who has these qualities, firstly in the guys who like you.. ;) Bcz "I think", girls usually don't like to go behind guys.. they are too lazy to do that.. and most of times there is no such necessity usually.. *Swag*..

So, Basically, these are few kinds of guys, which we girls usually have in our life.. like you see his KTM and he gives a naughty smile (bad boy kind), and that just swept you off your feet and there are butterflies flying around and disturbing you and you are shooing them away.. No?! ya ok.. ! Or you have this guy, who is like veryy humourous, like if you say "hi", he would be replying with a hilarious joke (yeah hell humorous! mind you).. or you have this one person in your list, who is damn intelligent.. ask him anything and he will have some information on it!! now that's like pretty impressive (if intelligence woo's you)..He has solution to all your problems.. Like if you marry him, you will have no problems at all for rest of your life!.. or there is this very cute+hot guy, you just want to pull his cheeks, hug him tightly... and then may be you know ;-) , or there is this verry very caring guy.. like if you sneeze, he is going to call a doctor for you right away.. (like thaaaaat caring!! ) ,, there are all these guys.. 

So, firstly this is what happens, One fine day : you see this guy, and he has most of the qualities you are looking for , he is ready to take your pictures in hundred frames!! and thousands of selfies that you want to take..:p and there..,you feel, "That"S IT.., I Nailed it.. I found him!! YeahhHH" and you are All HaPpIEEEEE :) that you finally found him.. and you guys get close, you start spending more time with him..taking pictures, eating lot of unnecessary junk food just to hang out with, asking how was your day and etc etc..

But then, some day down the line, one (not so fine) day, you realize something is not working here..!! somewhere at the bottom of your heart, it is acting like, it(your heart!) is trying to jump of out of some abyss, and trying to tell you, "No!!, that's not him.. ", " NO really not..", "I am not confusing you.. bel..zzz", *voices start fading away*..  It feels , its Still not HIM..!! :( .and then there you are all ConFuSeD.. Typical attribute of a girl/woman/grand women.. no such word?! ok Granny!!. :p :p

But why!! Why God Why!!, you think you have finally worked so hard, and found 1 guy out
( because, yea I know, you have waited soooo long, trying to find him and looking for him from like since you were 5 yr old!?.. :p ) But ever wondered why was your heart somewhere down not agreeing with you, even though, it appeared like he was the one!?

Let me unveil the curtain..  
The reason is just plain : You dint love him in the first place.. (:-O .. don't look at me like that now plzz,:p )

You were just in love with idea of your Guy, and not that "guy" himself..
when you first met him, there were butterflies, you thought, which were just some plain flies :D :D which you realize later.. because after spending some time with him , you gradually start loosing that little sparks you had between you ppl.. You would one day get bored of his jokes, his cute face, his biker stunts..(feels like, is he from circus?! ;p )... his intelligence may start to annoy you.. and money!!, I actually find it quite boring except for my shopping expenses..! :p  so there's nothing much to say about it.. and dats it.. your heart just gives you looks now.. like "I told you..!!! "..

Oops I forgot!, So, I have still not told you how to Confirm On that "ONE", have I ?!..yea, I get cruel sometimes!!,  I am just coming there.. above all is crap, below is the point you are looking for! :p

It's very simple.. Like in Matrix movie.. you will just know when he is the "ONE".. may be just wen you exchange your first blinks, or may be gradually.. a little later..! but You will.. you will really feel like there is some connection of me with this idiot here!.. why am I feeling so weird..! This cant be IT.. but guess what!? , that is IT :D :D .. that is the ONe.. 

he might or might not have all the qualities you have always dreamt of.. but there is this "connection" that is going to bind you.. which you will Feel..

You might find it hard to love him but you will soon realize it is harder to resist him.. 
In Filmy language, you will feel Like all the dharti , aakash and baarish have started to tell you, this is the one.. *pretty filmy :p** there will be butterflies, which you might think are flies, but they are not.. and there will be some fireworks in the background.. and all these weird things will happen to you, when you find him..! Yes.. satya vachan behna.. :p 


And to have some support on my "connection thingy" that I am yapping about, here's a point :there are lot of good painters, singers, handsome hunks, caring angels, cool poets out there, but we don't go falling for all of them, just coz they have those few qualities we like.. there are still very few people with whom we feel connected and this ONE, will make you feel the strongest connection. :D :). Yes this leaves a pebble unturned here (IYKWIM)..

Oh GAWD!! seems all crappy?!!! Well I have warned you before!.. :p  this is all random content..  But guess what... this does happen!! :p when you truly love someone, you will love them no matter what.. If you love them for some qualities, it will bind you together as long as they have those qualities, once they start loosing it, your love also starts draining out.. with time, you might get bored/used to those qualities.. but if you truly love them, & you feel that connection, then there is nothing in the world, that can separate you.. or stop you from loving that person.. So just wait for him to arrive or that connection to be felt.. some short circuit to happen on your line!!.. :D

 I know, nothing that you can control of here,.., well there are these huge Huge planets and stars, swirling and moving here and there randomly at speeds immeasurable in this Universe.. and we feel we can control everything that happens on this tiny winy earth, we dots on it..!.. Well this cannot be.. :D  Now go from here.. :p Happy finding your charm..! :p 

And Yea.. I love Tangled..!! he he :D :D 

Everything seems Broken.

When your heart's broken..

Life just seems to have lost all fun..

There's no freshness in morning's ginger tea..

Chocolate dough nut tastes like stale coffee...

The long hot showers don't calm me anymore..

Neither the Sunday noon naps on a quiet home floor...

There's no magic in a flower blooming..

In silent long walks, it's just memories shining...

Mountains and Hills are now just patchy green places..

The waves of Ocean, just another disturbance..

Neighbor's baby's giggles aren't something you adore..

Your friends' big success not a big deal anymore... 

When your heart's broken.,

Life just seems to have lost all fun...

Some Nice Excerpts I came across #love

https://scoopempire.com/27-times-berlin-artparasites-put-our-thoughts-into-words/


My personal Fav.
http://www.artparasites.com/about-men-who-come-back-too-late-because-they-dont-understand-how-a-womans-heart-works/

“That’s what really scares me.
Falling in love is easy. Having sex is easier. But bumping into someone that can spark your soul – that shit is rare.

You could fuck four, five, all the people in a god damned room and you’d only feel a connection with one. Or none at all.

And what sucks is despite the undeniable real magnetic pull between the two of you, more often than not, you don’t end up together.

I’m afraid I won’t meet anyone else I can connect with.

I’m scared it’ll be just you.”

A Random Puzzle fitting together

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F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Those strangers that felt like home, 

apart from your Mom..
The ones with who you sang your first rhyme..

That first lil human, 

who brought along a feeling, you are both big shots,
Ready to take down the world.,

Keeping your secrets in super knots.

Jumping into puddles, giggling at dirty shoes..

Stealing extra chips like you were making world news...

The lovely rains, paper boats n shared umbrellas..
Hide n seeks, Innocent dreams n to never let go promises..

Homes built in sand, rainbows wondered in awe..
Fights, chits , last benchers hahaha..

That extra secret chocolate, on their birthday...
N that first crush story which made your day..

The matches of the world cup..

and silent talks with a shared tea cup...

when life seemed adrift, shared your woes..

when hearts broke, they were your rainbows..

See-saw

ಮತ್ತೆ ಮತ್ತೆ ಕೊನೆಯ ಪತ್ರವೆಂದು ಬರೆದಿಟ್ಟ ಹಾಳೆಗಳು..

ಅರೆಕ್ಷಣದಲ್ಲಿ ಸಿಗುವ ಅರ್ಥವಿಲ್ಲದ ಜೀವಂತ ಸಿಹಿ ಕ್ಷಣಗಳು..

ಎಲ್ಲಾ ಬಿಟ್ಟು ಹೋಗಿಬಿಡಲೇ , ಇಲ್ಲ ಇನ್ನೊಂದು ದಿನ
ಇದ್ದು ಬಿಡಲೇ ಎನ್ನುವ ಹಂಬಲಗಳ ನಡುವೆ ಸಾಗುವ
ಬಾಳುಗಳು...

#ಸಾವು #ಬದುಕು

Did you..

Pink dustbin

Hello People :), So Listen... 

Today morning this happened..
I have a pink dustbin...
I keep it outside for garbage van to pick it up and come back inside.

Ans then

I see a clean pink dustbin.. INSIDE home.. ?!!  I was shocked..

 I juust kept it out.. how do I have it back inside home Alll clean..?

Then I look outside its still there..Now, There are 2 pink dustbins..

I think I got the neighbors dustbin in my home.. ?!? May be they too have a pink dustbin..

Then I go near bathroom.. there is one more pink dustbin..!!. Then I wonder do I have 2 pink dustbins n 1 is from neighbor..so totally 3 pink dustbins.... Wow!! I am good at making things up :D ..

N then slowly I try to take the neighbor's pink dustbin in my hand to return it but it suddenly vanished.... wtf.. !! M I dreaming??!!

Yea... it was a dream.. :D :)

Weird.. I know..

Duh...

Feelings are funny.. this moment they are there.. next moment no more.. so unreliable.. But irony is good feelings are what we live for..

Huh.. Life!!

Life seems to have gotten so complicated.. it was so much more simpler and easier back then.. not knowing anyth.. minimal info, more peace... though little dumb...

 but now.. all this social media, YouTube, hotstar, knowing about various kinds of lives that ppl live ..the ever flowing notifications, bank transaction msgs, the otps ,   the msgs to link Adhar from banks, the stupid long list of e-mails at work... call your mom, call your gf, talk to your boss, plan your career, set goals to achieve for the job you don't love.. what to eat for bf, what for lunch.. then what abt dinner.. am I putting on weight? When will I workout.!!., when will this relation workout , when will this project complete .. n this damn traffic.. huh.. then you go to bed.. n feel what the hell m doing in life.. what is your passion, what you love to do and what are you doing . . Yu just don't need this money n this stupid job.. why can't I just be.. what's the purpose of life... in this huge huge universe .. a tiny winy life of mine, what difference do I make...ohh...  but i think I forgot to set the alarm!! 

Dude.. universe!! Ll u please?!

When we don't follow our dreams.. or whatever we are supposed to follow, it's not just us missing on it.. it's the whole world n universe missing out on you..!!

P.s: universe pls tell me what shud I follow.. do yourself a favor!!
God damn! Enough procrastinating!!

#current mood #philosophy  #Bored actually

Life as symmetry..

Our Perceptions keep changing..

The same thought is perceived in different ways at different times.. and this keeps happening with me all the time.. Sometime what I had thought was horrible, starts making sense after some time!!

First time , I heard cats eat their kittens after delivering them, I really felt that was too cruel! how could that be possible.. Ofcourse I was younger then, when I heard this..

But , Now that I realise, every Life is important, including our own (ofcourse including! :) ) I feel there is no right or wrong here.. It is just the way it is.. Mother cat needs to survive too.. For herself and her kittens.. may be she doenst have that energy to wait till its fed something after her labour.. may be if she is served something to eat she will definitely not try to kill one of her kittens.. Every animal is protective of their babies.. But we also have seen cats being impatient when hungry.. they just pounce on food when its served, when they are starving.. it is just animal instinct..

Also, when Every life is important.. there is nothing wrong in choosing yourself.. Every Life is equally precious to be saved..

Some experience so some opinion!!?!

Hey yo People.. Good Day to you..

So, I just was at hospital some days ago, as someone in family was not well... Basically, I really hate going to hospitals for whatever reason.! No offense to anyone, but that place really turns me off in every aspect.. Ill people, Money minded receptionists and Doctors. Especially these receptionists have garnered great deal of hate from me for no mistake of theirs; but they are the ones who ask me to pay these ridiculous amounts..!

But then, you realise, if we had taken care of our health, we wouldn't even be here in first place.! Thank God, that I rarely fall sick, much rarely visit Doctors :) Thank my parents and My mom for that immunity :)..

Well, I felt, I should pen down a few things, a few observations/Lessons learnt..; see if it helps you too.. :)

So, straight to point : all these Prev Gen of ours, (mostly referring to parents and before ones gen)..they dont seem that emotional to me.. They are actually more practical than us.. Seems obvious?! No?!.. Firstly they weren't as pampered as us, nor had as smooth life as ours.. they dint dream much of prince charmings coz they seem to have somehow known there wasn't one!! , They are quite tough.. in handling themselves atleast when their expectations are not met.. We have seen moms to be very emotional, that's coz mostly you are their only outlet?? .. Our gen girls will be much much more emotional with their kids when their time comes.. trust me..

I felt like we are the more emotional ones, we are the weaker and more sensitive ones and so will our next gen be..

I see very few couples from prev Gen who are very emotionally attached to each other..
Aunties actually dont give a damn about uncles ; they treat them more like kids who need  to be fed and taken care of their health.. this is their birth duty.. sorry Marriage Duty..
They are born to do this.. (Oh dont you doubt this, society preaches this ,Dont even provoke the feminist in me..) Food and health are their departments.. Rest all aspects of life, they dont understand, nor do they want to.. sure thing, coz uncles too mustn't have given a damn about their wives health or food or other well being.. Coz they think everybody's health and food in home is women's responsibility.. and earning money which they just manage to do is their only sole responsibility.. (which we ladies now know, is not that big of a deal as we too work!)

Their relationship seems to be much more practical than what we guys have with our partners.
Aunties are so much more healthier and happier than these sad , boring uncles coz m sure, uncle mustn't have fetched even a glass of water for himself when his wife is doing all the work.. This has actually worked in favor of women coz they are the most active ones.. and they are actually not dependent on these uncles except for finances..
some have worn out too, coz of totally self centered uncles but then the male favored society wouldn't bother much anyway.

No wonder, I saw more male patients at hospital , and  women (their wives) just like taking care of one more casualty of life stood by their side in their sickness... I am not sure how our gen wives would react if something bad happend to their husbands, but I do believe we are trying to create that love and bonding which our prev gen hasn't done for whatever reason.. Mostly society's f...ed up idea? to suppress women!? and it messed everything for them..

Free ka advise to my fellow generation Men and ofcourse women, if you want to be healthier and happier behave like your mum and not your Dad (assuming your mum was most responsible in your family)..

And yea.. Please remember " Health is greatest Wealth ".
Take care.
Shabba Khair.. :p

That is what you deserve..

>> People choose people for many reasons..

They can choose you, coz you are easy,

coz you are safe to be with,.

Coz you validate them to the world.,

Coz your money or power flows to them  indirectly,

coz they depend on you in some way..

Very rarely they choose you for who you are actually.. 

for your craziness, for your intensity, for your depth

just for you..

Be with these.. That is what you deserve..

Thats how its gonee

That's how it is gone.,,

You know what is the silliest thing to do?.. Not to talk to someone coz you "think" they dont want to as much you do..

This is actually the most common problem..In the current world where everybody is trying to become all " Self loving" and " Knowing yourself",..People have started to analyse too much, as to how much other person wants to talk to them.. and then somehow assume the other person doesn't want to as much as they do.. but the fact is they all want to.. but they start talking less.. and when everybody is reading the same articles, sharing the same ideas, assuming the same things, both decide to talk less n less and that's how they loose each other.. People are connected yet so disconnected in today's world..

Analyse less.. Live more..

Thoughts 3

>> Worst kind of stories are those which have no ending.

>>You will either be scared or feel empty if you depend on someone for love...
    It is better to take care of it yourself to get rid of the fear of losing it or emptiness of getting it..

>> such a confused state..  some say live in the moment.. Forget the past and future..and people just break you and move on to live in present again! and so should you.. just forgive them and live in present again?!

>> It's so unfortunate, the ones who get love do not know how to hold it well..
     N ones who are ready to hold it well do not get love..
     N ones who are ready to hold it well do not get love..

>> Sometimes you think you should escape your parents, or you "can"escape your parents, because they dont understand..
But ,truth is, you never can and you never should.. cause though they might not understand, they always want the best for you.

>>That moment wen the sweat drop starts moving from ur forehead n finally drops to floor... That phase of life is called hard work and results :) 

-- In the Gym guys.. in the Gym!! 😌

>>Every two years or five yrs ahead in time I find myself doing the same which I thought was ridiculous at one point in time.. m I growing in right way or wrong way . .! I don't know..

>>Love is like free fall.. u cannot feel it's sweetness n rush unless you are ready to let go off the boring practicalities

>>Kids are truly gods.. they seem to be so self sufficient.. they really don't need anyth..
Here i m am sitting in hall reading a book...
N my 4 yr old nephew is rolling over with his head on my lap talking to himself , thinking n playing n lost in his own world... it jus feels so beautiful.. 
 
I feel like we jus need to get this attitude from them n live like that forever.. fully free.. Looks like we entangle ourselves in unnecessary things..!

>>Successes are like Moms..
They just pamper you and make you feel good always..! No matter how big or small..
Failures are like Dads..
They just stand there and looking at you.. without uttering a word, telling you that you need to bring down that ego and "you still need to learn"..

>>Life is a symmetry if you observe.. we take same actions sometimes, once in foolishness , other time with full acceptance and understanding of it...

>>Why do great ppl like to be with great ppl? Coz they know how hard it is to achieve greatness and they value it n they respect each other for it...



>>What's worse,?
When u manipulate and make someone feel guilty of living a good life that they have earned for themselves.. n not be able to enjoy it coz u r not happy with your life bcz of your ignorance n choices..



>>Unki Na thi galti, hum hi galat samaj baithe..
Vo mohabbat sa baat karte the, hum mohabbat hi samaj baithe..
Vo mohabbat sa baat karte the, hum mohabbat hi samaj baithe..

>> 

M sorry.. call me anything.. but if you do things jus to make someone happy, like making them happy, thinking they ll thank you for making them happy!?! God..you are only going to end up frustrated .. coz ppl ll never be satisfied of you. Only you need to be satisfied of yourself. Others opinions are just that.. "opinions"..

>>You will get used to/adjusted to anything and everything in life.. Point is, you need to decide what you want to get used to..

>>Hope for worst or best things to happen in life.. Only extremes get you motivated to something wonderful.. mediocres will just keep you afloat on life..

>>

Doesn't happen everyday

And when i win, I win with two Queens by my side !! :) ;)

Women

Women..

They are more or less like Universe.!

You do not know where to start about them and if they ever end, so diverse..

And Yes we think too much..

We think about that gorgeous dress,

we think of that poor lady in stress..

We think about that road side kitty shivering in cold and get her home..

we think of best of comforts to get for dad and mom..

we think of what to cook for today..

we think if we can look better than that girl you looked at other day..

we think of what would make you happy and how much we can save for you next birthday..

we think too much cause we want our kids to have best of Day..

we think too much cause we are only scared of hurting someone or things going wrong..

we think too much cause we want to keep holding that hand and keep going strong..

we think too much.. just one aspect..

All we need is some love and respect..

we have our own inner conflicts in a big number.. 

and  you think she is only confused in choosing that lipstick color..

we know we are not perfect, but we neither have to be.

we are just beautiful the way we are, only if you can see..

Don't celebrate us just for a day and then send that stupid joke about women the next day..

we are worth a celebration Everyday..

Friday..!!! :p (only who know kannada)

*Me calls Mom *

Mom : Hello

 Me : Hello Ma,  En madakunti?

Mom : Batti madakuntini..

Me: Batti?, What special?!,..

Mom : ivatta shukravara, Pooje..

Me : Ohh!! so weekend is back..

  

* Me calls friend *

Friend : Hello

Me : Hello, wassup ?!

F: ordering snacks n drinks.. Do you want anything?

Me : what special?

F: ivatta Friday.. Pooje..

Me : Ohh!! so weekend is back..

#Generations.. #Moms.. #friends..

What is it again!?😂

Actually meet many ; but today someone with label.. :p